Mistress
Lifestyle Dominant
Who am I?
First I need to make it very clear that I AM NOT a professional Dominatrix/Domme/Mistress or someone who engages in “Pay-2-Play” activities. I am simply into what I’m into for my own pleasure. This website is for networking within the kink community and to vet potential subs only, nothing more.
💯 Lifestyle Domme/Mistress
🚫 NOT a Pro Domme
🚫 NOT a FinDom
🚫 NOT Pay-2-Play
🚫 NOT a Kink Dispenser
🚫 NOT a Content Creator
🚫 NO Personalized Porn
My dominant side ranges from sensual to sadistic depending on the needs/limits of my submissive.
My dynamics have clearly defined rules, boundaries, and limits.
What is a Lifestyle Domme?
The term “Lifestyle Domme” refers to a woman who engages in kink activities as a Dominant in unpaid interactions with persons identifying as a submissive. She is engaging with her submissive for the enjoyment she gets out of the interaction, not because she is receiving any type of compensation. Unlike FinDommes or Pro Dommes, there is no money or compensation exchanged for interacting with a Lifestyle Domme.
Pleasurable pain,
not painful pleasure.
My domination style
I’m lean more towards sensual domination with impact play incorporated into that. That looks like a lap dace, but remove the clothes, add restraints, and the male is not only allowed to orgasm but forced to. While I do like to incorporate impact play into a scene (riding crops, floggers), unless a sub has made it very clear that they are into sadistic domination I am about a 4 on a scale of 1-10. I do not do any type of play that involves needles or blade tools that draw blood.
You can read my entire BDSM kink list and what I’m into by clicking here.
FROM THE BLOG
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My Origin Story
Read more: My Origin StoryDid you know that I started out in BDSM as a sub? It is important that you understand how I got to this point in my sexuality. A lot of people in the lifestyle, and some in real life, have asked me how I got into all of this. I feel like my story is…
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Must Read Q&As
Read more: Must Read Q&As“Why do you have a website?” Because it pleases me, and I like having transparency on who I am and what my protocols/expectations are from the start so that you as a sub know what you are getting yourself into. It does not serve me to have to write out information over and over again…
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Getting kinky with me
Read more: Getting kinky with meTo be clear I am currently looking for a boyfriend not a fuck buddy, in a monogamous long term relationship. I limit my engagement with people seeking DYNAMIC ONLY interactions with me. I just like being upfront about my preferences because no one likes having their time wasted if it’s not a match. But when…
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What I’m Seeking
Read more: What I’m SeekingI am seeking a LONG TERM DYNAMIC for a FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIP and my preference is MONOGAMOUS. I limit my interaction with people who approach me for DYNAMIC ONLY types of relationships. Here is a link to my entire Domme/Mistress profile where I have details about myself, my interests, and an extensive Q&A series about…
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My Process For New Dynamics
Read more: My Process For New DynamicsAs you read this keep in mind that this was written for both vanilla men who have never interacted with a Domme before, and for men experienced in the kink lifestyle. My process for vetting submissives is one of the most thorough and detailed ones you will ever come across, and full transparency about what…
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Champagne Taste, Beer Budget
Read more: Champagne Taste, Beer BudgetI’ll be the first person to tell you that I spend a lot on kink related things, more in a single month than most people could ever conceive of spending in a decade. My love of pretty things and toys can get very expensive at times and luckily I am able to afford the lifestyle…
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What people say
about me
“She is beyond amazing. The best part about her is the effort she puts in and how much she genuinely cares and is actually enjoying every moment of what’s happening. She’s all about the details. After our third session together I can genuinely say I don’t know what to expect for the next session. Every time we meet it’s something new and exciting.”
Submissive ・ Switch
“She was amazing. From the moment she walked in until the end of the session I was mesmerized with her beauty, her talent and her skill. She brought brand new submissive tendencies out in me. She made me remember why I’m submissive.”
Alpha Submissive
If you are applying to be her sub or slave, don’t even think about exaggerating or lying to her. She WILL find out.
If you are a Baby Domme or Mistress and have contacted her for advice, you have come to the right place. This woman has fought in the trenches of both vanilla and kink life and following her example and advice will go a long way in keeping you safe as you navigate these spaces.”
Ready to meet me?